Yesterday I went over to one of my friend's house. What we did? We played band hero, there was a copious amount of role playing involving a warped Star Wars based (from what I could gather) plot with plastic swords and nerf guns, ping pong, KFC, covers of the Pokemon theme song involving our impromptu band (which was called Jedify Him), and the use of spoons and cups as instruments, and ~rocking out~ to Cookie Jar by The Dream with two electric guitars and excessive crotch thrusting.
And it's been on my mind lately but I feel extra sappy this morning - we don't do these things a lot anymore. Ever since the end of last year I'm starting to realise the transition we (we being my friends and I) have gone through - from daytime guitar hero and trips to the cinema...to parties ending beyond midnight and booze and saliva fests. Saliva fests are good. I'm not going to complain about making out, but, it's just kind of depressing. It really does feel like we're ~growing up~. This is all well and good, but I had the most fun I've had for a while, last night. Just sitting in my friend's room singing to crap rap songs off key and dancing around to Walking On Susnhine via Band Hero.
I think I'm all sad and shit about this growing up and this transition into night parties because I'm so not hardcore. I don't drink, I wear clothes from charity stores that were once probably owned by elderly ladies, my favourite hobby is listening to The Beatles on my bedroom floor, I do enjoy making out but not massively with everyone I meet. And it just really saddens me that events NOT fueled by alcohol will be increasingly less frequent. But what can you do? Maybe I'll just end up adapting and when you talk to me in a few years time I'll be scoffing at the idea of having a picnic at noon with no booze or nudity. But it'll all be fine, because if I adapt and grow up with these people that I guitar hero with, I'll be having these nude alcoholic picnics with the people I love, and that's all that matters.
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My best advice id don't buy into the hype. I'm gonna sound like a boring parent here, but don't do things you don't enjoy even it it means being left behind just because you are afraid of not growing up together with the people you know. Trust me, your real friends don't care if you prefer noon guitar hero to nocturnal naked debauchery.
Peace
dude, i'd LOVE to hang around you guys. i've never seen anyone rock out to guitar hero or rock band this hard ! i call it peter pan syndrome, keep it.
btw, i'm always amazed by how fun this blog is.
i'm not a drinker and clubbing doesnt really excite me either. we're never too old to have picnics & bike rides!! a lot of my friends still have day time parties free of booze and we still get a kick out of charades & singstar & chitchats about the meaning of life.
i feel a little awkward when everyone around me is intoxicated.
but dont be sad! the hype of drinking wears out once it becomes legal and people turn 18.
but even so, no night party can compare with having tea next to a tree with a novel/frankie haha it all rhymes and is a totally different kind of euphoria
jess, i've gone out like twice in the past year. i skipped my cousins' weddings (twice). i can't wait for anything. we need to find cheap tickets to new york and play twister in central park.
btw, we don't need alcohol to have fun. we're too cool for that.
I agree with the anonymous person. I don't ever want to that stuff and I'm around that age. Find people who want to make the same lifestyle choices as you. Sure it may hurt at first to leave your friends. But its better, safer, and healthier for you in the long run. You end up having more fun and won't regret any decisions in the morning.
Trust me I had to make the decision to stop being friends with my best friend for this exact reason. Its painful. But at least I won't end making stupid choices out of negative peer pressure.
Agree with what everybody else has said completely! Even though they're into drinking and stuff, it doesn't mean you have to and as everybody else has said, yeah you should def find some other friends who share what you like doing that doesn't involve alcohol but that doesn't necessarily mean leaving them, you can just choose to hang out with them when they're not doing alcohol-related stuff or better yet, it's always (always! trust me, I've experienced it =)) much more fun if you're the sober one and then that means you have embarrassing stories to share.... that they may not even remember ;]
But yeah, def stay true to who you are~
I know how you feel. I don't drink either, so it's just weird when people at school talk about their experience with drinking and parties. But, I've reached a point where I don't really care about it as much. I like being my own individual person; I don't mind being different from everyone else.
My friends and I still do our usual daytime adventures though. I don't see why we can't have both in our lives. :)
and I love buying clothes from charity/thrift store. I always find really unique clothes at an affordable price. :D
this post made me cry... I'm older than you, but I feel such sympathy for what you're saying. I definetely don't belong to the world I live in, and I'm going through hard times right now because of this.
Never try to adapt to the world. You are who you are, a very sensitive and talented girl, and you have a lot to give.
take care sweetie :)
I totally agree with you. As if we're having "fake fun" just to be hip, instead of doing what we feel like doing.
Trust me, I wouldn't feel sad about it. Just because the majority of people think a drinking culture is fun and good, it doesn't make it right. Be happy that you've chosen the right decision. Alcohol can absolutely destroy people and families.
At the end of the day, these people who get drunk like every weekend have no awareness about the rest of the world. I'm glad I also don't drink because I think - I'll be getting the vote in 2 years, do I want to be a total idiot who has no knowledge about the suffering of other people and about the real issues in the country I live in? People grow up being way to immature. I know we ARE immature because we're young, but I don't think it should be that way totally.
I can have a great time at a party without drinking! It makes me sick that even some of my friends do it, seriously, what is the point?! Obviously people have no self respect if they think they should waste they're time getting absolutely plastered. Its mindless and pointless behaviour!
Please don't think you'll grow up to be like that! I am probably quite similar to you... I enjoy the simple things like going to the cinema. I think it is so much more important to become a cultured person than to waste your life.
We'll grow up to be people who actually make a difference in society, so don't feel sad.
Hey I can totally sympathize with you...me and my friends are not hardcore whatsoever and love having fun without intoxicants around. It's not necessary. Some people just don't know how to have a good time without alch which makes them pathetic. Don't give into it though. If you like having sober fun, then do it. :) x
I say if you're not into all that hardcore partying and booze and crap, don't feel the need to go with it. There's always people out there who feel the same way, trust me. And I think it's honorable of you and really awesome that it's not so much your thing. That's ok, and don't be afraid to believe that. Keep up your fabulousness!
-Lila Gray
Darling, I just want to say at 20 in my second year of Uni, I am feeling the same. I'd much rather be out and about during the day doing fun things than getting drunk and hooking up with any one who looks good through beer goggles. Don't consider that growing up please, because I feel that wanting to be drunk all the time and the ideology that social settings require alcohol is a phase of immaturity in my mind.Stay true to you, you are not alone you may just need to find others who are in the same boat as you.
stfu jess
i forgot how i got here but i read it anyway
i never realised how significant that was to you D:
dw ill chuck gh parties whenever, wherever you need :P
cos honestly, i dont need a guitar to rock out (H) \m/ .,!,.
hiiii jess loves fred
i don't know your name but anyway
hi
i just got to aussie for uni and to my shock horror i find that the main activity of australian teenagers seem to be getting drunk and/or making out and/or going to the beach to get drunk and it's beyond depressing because it would be nice to know that someone else out there can have fun without alcohol and saliva fests! (also random hooking up is unhealthy for the soul, if you didn't know.) so i know this is selfish, but it would be nice if you didn't compromise, because i'm still adjusting and i do spend copious amounts of time questioning the meaning of life but i am sure that it will get better and i will form a book club or a quilting circle or perhaps a animal-rescuing-base-jumping-horse-riding dance troupe for when we're feeling slightly adventurous. interested?
i really should consider going straight edge
thanks for listening
nicola
I feel exactly the same. Two years ago, it was the end of schoolyear and we ended up drinking beer near the police station. Nothing bad happened, and I was having the time of my life with my best friends. But after summer, I moved to a smaller town. I went to my hometown regularly, but things weren't the same. We're at a period of our lives where we grow up/change awfully fastly. As I wasn't 24h/24 with my friends anymore, they changed without me, and when I came the next summer, I realized they had begun to party a lot at night, with alcohol and sometimes drugs. And now that two years have passed, that I also changed, I still feel that difference which lies between us. They grew up without me, and so did I without them, and our lives are no longer the same, because their interests are different than mines, and that I still need time to adapt. I don't like alcohol, I don't like drugs, and I don't like being drunk in the middle of the night and wandering in the streets with strange people around us.
It makes me weirdly melancholic as I think about it, and nostalgic, and sad.
Anyway. Your blog is nice nice, I like the way you dress. =) I'd like to begin a "fashion" blog, but I'm afraid I don't have enough
time.
This is actually the story of my life. I hate it that all my friends do now is go out and party. I miss the innocent nights in - movie marathons and whatnot.
Tam
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